News Journal of February 10, 2012: Is It A Must?

 Cartoons by Curtis W. Jackson

As children we were warned not to pull the lever on the fire alarm. Trouble would ensue, especially if our parents were to pick us up from the police station. Making an false accusation can be a serious matter. The finger pointing to address an injustice or violation could disrupt or greatly alter the lives of those accused. Sexual assault is a crime that should never be lessen in seriousness. For reason the self-worth, dignity of the victim is vandalized against her will. The impact of such crimes might never be lived out of what pains these produced. It is not easy for me to fully apply either of these aspects upon the case of Greg Kelly.
Greg, age 43, a NBC media correspondent, is the son of New York City police commissioner, Ray Kelly. Two weeks ago he was front page news after a 29-year old woman accused him of raping her. She reportedly claimed Greg Kelly took sexual advantage of her after having alcoholic drinks at the legal office of her employment. The incident supposedly happened in October, 2011. The attention of it must had contributed to Kelly taking a leave of absence from his occupation.
This week the Manhattan District Attorney Office after investigating the incident, cleared Kelly of all rape allegations. Today people in New York may see him smiling onscreen in relief. Greg is returning this Friday to his job as a morning, television anchor on Good Day New York. Apparently Kelly is moving forward in putting the disruptive matter behind him. If he is innocent of the accusations made against him why should he pay the penalties for them?
My interest here are what factors lead to this short-lived saga. I do not know the facts of this circumstance. Whatever there is proof revealing Greg actually committed the offense. And whatever the woman who accused him is lying. The DA office and police authorities have likely examined all the details possible. Within the two weeks they spent many hours evaluating every bit, including interviewing the victim and Kelly. Nonetheless Kelly's case did revealed an sensitive, intimate matter affecting all individuals. Should sexual relations be for free without the commitment of marriage?

A Decision Of Virtue Not Shared By Both

"I WANT TO DEMONSTRATE TO YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU, TO ATTEST HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE TO ME. BUT YOU ARE SOOO STUCK UP, SO INSENSITIVE! THIS IS CHILDISH, WE BEEN DATING TOO LONG FOR YOU TO ACT THIS WAY. IF YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR ME-YOU WOULD DO IT."

Why of me asking? Think about it, what is principally relative to the Kelly accused drama? Either one or both unmarried persons exercised anticipation for sexual relations. No surprise billions would disagree with me that sexual relations should remain within the marriage arrangement between a husband and wife. Many might view this intimate privilege should be available anytime, with anyone desired when they are ready for it. Yet no one can overlook the pending problems fornication can result in; unexpected pregnancies, abortions, broken relationships, STD (sexual transmitted diseases) conditions-sicknesses, emotional toll such as internal guilt or shame. Does it actually feel good to your self esteem to lay with someone who do not love or regard you? He or she just wanted to rent your body. We realized in addition there are the complications Greg Kelly had to confront.

"My gladness we waited, and I thought at times I would not been able to handle it. But now that we kept true to ourselves, our marriage makes for a meaningful certification of our childrens' existence with the proper foundation set."

Of people supporting sexual relations without a marriage license, they may wish to re-consider what could be gained or lost. In possible actuality a one night stand may be liken to pulling the fire alarm illegally. There are indeed moments of thrills. And then if you are caught there are the longer hours of bitterness. For example a high school senior might bring upon herself the unwanted sacrifices and economic distresses of early parenthood. If she have a child out of wedlock. The sexual pleasure lasted a few hours at the most, yet she will bear a lifetime debt rearing the child. Since there are circumstances we are not able to completely avert it is advisable to practice abstinence before marriage.

There are healthy alternatives of relieving oneself from sexual pressures. One way might be our attitudes and outlook on life. Do we actually need sex to live from day to day as if it was food and water? There are additional options. Usually no one is forcing us to watch entertainment, read books, play video games or apps which endorse immoral activity. We can chose to avoid association with persons whom encourage illicit behaviors. We don't have to stare lastingly at a sexy, magazine ad or maintain a wandering eye for the opposite sex. Just because you got a surprise e-mail trick exposing a porn site. The thought of it can be rejected, reminding ourselves of the harms of porn. You can delete it at the moment. We know this bad motive email is not reason to secretly view pornography on the Internet. A person combating it may decide to seek mature help to overcome it before pornography wreaks his life.

Another thought is that sexual relations may have outstanding purposes. Engaging in it could contribute to a closer bond between husband and wife. Married parents could offer their children a more stable, family life. Although unmarried people live together having children, there are fewer perks for them legally than for married persons. True, there are many divorces, but how much more secure and lasting are lived in, unmarried relationships? Without a marriage license, an agreed commitment a person is free to walk away from the relationship at almost anytime. Many of these individuals had separated and taken on other mates.
For decades people given free sexual activity a complete run. They tried various forms of fornication resulting unfulfilled, empty lives. Remember the 1950's, 60's and 70's? There are likely more accounts of unhappiness, less freedoms than otherwise in the course of history by the practices of unmarried sex. Since we already facing alarming problems in this world, why add to them by repeating others' erroneous paths? Even a non-virgin person with a tainted background can now decide live honorably, esteem oneself with virtue. Not old fashion, abstinence can be a modern day provision to benefit from. I look forward in returning with more, news commentary.